I always found it amusing when friends/family want you to meet their new boyfriend/girlfriend. I personally would rather not meet these newly formed crushes until they have passed the eight month mark.
Odds are they will break up before then if it isnt working out. Why should I get to know this person and maybe liking them, only to find out that they break up several months later. I hate having to ex-communicate people. In honesty I don't have to stop talking to them. It just makes it uncomfortable when they mention your friend/family.
My sister started dating this new guy, and I have yet to meet him. I know she wants my approval but I refuse to meet the guy for another 6 months or so. Am I wrong? Should I just meet the guy and get it over with? I know a point will arise when she asks what I think of him. If I like him, well that's awesome for her, but what if I don't like him. What if I think he is some poor excuse of a boyfriend. Will she take my advice and cut him loose? I doubt it. What's the point in even saying anything at all. I would hope she would take my advice. Outsiders can definitely see more considering they aren't blinded by feelings.
Everyone does this, even me. We all want to know if we have a good catch or not. Most of the time the answer is "no", but we ignore outside advice and stick to our emotional attachments.
The reason why I wrote this is because I'm going to follow my own rules here as well. I'm not going to ask anyone "what they think" until I have lasted the eight month mark. Until then things are new and fun, it's after the eight month mark that you can actually gauge the long term commitment of the whole situation. When I finally do ask for opinions I actually will take that advice seriously, obviously others see what I don't.
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