The First Kiss

Ahh the first kiss. You've been hanging out with someone for a few weeks and you like them... and you gotta make the move... The first kiss is usually a good indication of how well you connect. If you feel something, its golden. If not, try again with someone else. People get so stressed over just a simple kiss. But we all know its not "just" a kiss. Its often used as some sort of reference weather you'd date someone or not.

Now if you're like me, you know you gotta choose your time of attack well. I prefer to go for it during a more laid back, and comfortable hang out session.

Key signs!- Are both parties being flirty? Are you two having a good time? Is the other person relatively comfortable? DO NOT underestimate the comfort factor, its crucial. If alcohol is involved...BE CAREFUL. My always favorite signal is one that I have caught onto over many years... Change in voice. Girls voices get higher, guys voices get softer.

I find that the movie Hitch has A LOT of information useful for clueless people.


Situations...

A. You are staring into each others eyes- Holy shit it cant get easier than that... Its the biggest dead give away. GO FOR IT.

B. Someone is playing hard to get- Grab their neck from the back and gently pull them towards you. Do not do this if you're not confident. YOU MUST BE CONFIDENT.

C. Some how you instantly connect... and its like HOLY SHIT! KISS ME! I have never been in this situation, sounds something too hollywood-like. But you know what... whats the worst that could happen.

D. Your not sure- Go for it anyway...

Now there are some rules if you succeed. More than likely both of you will enjoy it. Sure sign is if you see a smile. NO SMILE=FAIL. But things will kinda progress from this...trust me. GO WITH THE FLOW. If you have to think about your next move, you might have failed... DO NOT OVER THINK! OVER THINKING=FAIL. Don't think. Everything falls in place on its own from this moment on.

Crazyness

Feeling Good

So, after many months of dating weirdo's... I may have hit the jackpot. Definitely a girl I would like to put up with. Now, this is definitely a girl that's legit... No WTF moment or anything like that. Her mind is just as twisted, and just as dirty. We get along great, and we can talk about various things for countless hours. Taste in movies, and music seems to be the same. Books on the other hand I'll have to get back to you about. She's gorgeous, smart, and quick on her toes. So far all things are going ahead forward. I hope it continues to progress that way.

Moving to San Francisco

I tell people I'm moving to San Francisco, and I always get one of two responses.

Response 1- Dude, that's so awesome.

Response 2- Your an idiot. Why do you want to go there. The gays are there.

I feel like if I don't explore while I'm still at this stage in life, I wont ever go do it. I don't want to look back on my life in six or seven years and be like "I really should have gone some where new."

Lets face it... no one likes change. I'm nervous as hell about moving to a city I know nothing about. I have some family in SF but I don't even know their names. I'd also only know about two people there. I am scared as hell.

Living there- My goal is to find an apartment within a month. Till then I'd crash with family. I really want to live on my own. I want to fend for myself, and learn responsibility. I know its gonna be tough. I'm gonna be working hard, and going to school. My life will probably be really tough... especially my first six months. After that I'm sure the routine will kick in.

Motivation- Kids here in Missouri will always bitch about living here. They claim to hate it, and blah, blah, blah. Yet when they graduate from high school they opt to go to school in-state. Financially its a wise move. But then they continue to trash talk it. They end up getting married here, have kids here, move to the same suburb they grew up in, and they end up dying here. All that sounds very rough, I know it does. I don't want to be like any of those kids. I'm gonna take the financial hit and move. I have a feeling im going to look back on this decision and be very happy that I decided to do what I did.

Money- I'm planning on finding another bank job out there. I've found a few positions. I have a feeling I'll be doing a various amount of side jobs as well. A large part of my money for school stuff/ living out there will come from student loans.

School- This is the main reason why I'd even be out there. Most of the top 25 business schools are located in California. I figured that I might as well become a in-state resident to save myself some cash later down the road when I do transfer out of the City College of San Francisco.

Life- My life will be tough out there. I know it will. I'll be thousands of miles away from home, friends and family. But I'll definitely have more opportunities in California than I would in Missouri.

California Dream- The California Dream can finally be accomplished. This is another reason that I'd love to go. This idea of moving far away has been a idea for many years. I've just been afraid to act on it. With the help of a lovely young women (yeah the same one) my idea, is finally becoming a reality. All I needed was a push, and for that I'm very thankful.

I'm still going regardless of what people think about this move. Its gonna suck at first but it'll get better.

Marriage

It was brought to my attention by a lovely young woman last week that I entertain the idea of marriage A LOT. To which I was like... Yeah I kind of do, Don't I.

Lets step inside my head for a bit shall we? Ever since I can remember I've been told to marry an Indian girl. On top of that, they wanted specifics. Such as last names, what village her family is from, proper age to be married by and the wealth of her family. I have not gone a solid week in my life when such a topic, or statement has been brought up.

I have been told this for so many years that I don't want to even do it just to piss them off. Not the marriage part, but you know, the Indian life-partner aspect of it.

Living in St Louis works in my favor, as does not having much family around the mid-west.

Years of such marriage brainwashing has left me always thinking though... I like to entertain the idea more than the average Joe.

I wanted to include this video of my cousin Nirav...

Street Racing

Ok, I'll admit to street racing. Usually its between friends, but every now and then you just wanna smoke that Chevy Cobalt with a giant wing.

Racing is a thrill. Win or lose, your heart is pounding, and your adrenaline is pumping. You know the risk- Get caught and your fucked.

All my friends have faster cars than me, so I usually race against them as a joke. When your facing off against a ricer... now that's a different story. When your facing off against a douche, the only thing on our mind is "I'm gonna smoke this ass wipe."

I don't like provoking races, usually it's the other way around. Everyone thinks I drive a EVO X, go figure. I do take that as a complement though.

I have gone up against Scion tC's, Civic Si's, and other Lancers. I lost against the Si, I stand no chance when VTEC kicks in. The Scions, I will eat for dinner. Scion drivers are usually big tools. I haven't met one who is cool, so I don't know. The Lancer races depend on who had a bad shift.

I plan on making my car fast as hell, so I'm sure I will be adding more victories to my belt.