Why Keep Doing It?

Why do we fall in love? What motivates us to find someone that truly makes us happy? What's the point in even opening up to another person? Is it the fact that no one wants to be alone, or is it that we want to find the right person for us out there? There are so many questions we could ask about this topic. Everyone has fallen in love at some point or another; some more then others. So why do it?

Deep down it's the simple fact that no one wants to be alone for the rest of their lives. What's more depressing that waking up and knowing that you don't have someone to share your life with.

I think what makes a relationship work best is when two people love each other, but they don't need each other. Life is certainly less complete without the other being there, but neither partner relies on the other for his or her ultimate happiness. That does not mean lovers don't go though a grief process if they lose each other.

I know I've fallen in love before. It's such a hard feeling to describe when you find someone that totally gets you. I thought about her all the time. When I was with her I just felt so much better. I cared about her. She meant the world to me. When I kissed or embraced her I would get a over whelming tingling feeling. The feeling was addictive.

When I lost her though my world came crashing down, or it seemed like it anyway. I couldn't eat, sleep, or even stay focused at all because I only thought about her. I felt depressed and sad. I missed her, and I still do.

A time comes though when you let your feelings toward that person go to try again. This part usually takes a while. I think a big part of it has to do with the simple fact that you don't want to get hurt again. Eventually you'll find another person that you will let your guard down to again, and this will keep repeating until you find the one.

Now I'm not married or anything, but I hear that knowing if that person is right for you is a very hard thing to determine. Well I guess it depends on the person. I know a guy who thought that the girl he loved could do much better than him. He loved her. He just felt he hurt her too much and that feeling just wouldn't go away. Well they broke up and did their own thing for a few months, then they starting talking again, he went through the same feelings of doubt in himself, but then over came it. More time passes and they get married. When he looks back on it now he just thinks of how stupid he was.

Love is such a complicated human emotion. You can get hurt many times by it, but you still want to keep going through it until you find that person.

When will you know? Does that person support you? Make you feel alive? Do you care about them? Do they make you happy? Do they feel the same? Does their happiness matter to you? Will you be there for them through the hard times? Are you attracted to them? The list could go on forever. I think you'll know when you know deep down that they are the one for you. It hits everyone at a different time, but that feeling will tell you everything you need to know.

All I know is that the right person for you is out there. You just have to fight through allot to finally get to them. When you do find them you will wonder what took you so long. Usually that person is right under your nose if your still looking. If not keep searching. You will find them.